Job search as a driving journey

He was trying for a couple of years to get a better job in his field. Tired, frustrated, low confidence, lack of energy were just a few symptoms he was dealing with when we’ve started the coaching session.
– I’m very good in promoting and helping others, but I just can’t do it for myself. I don’t know what’s happening, he started.
It seemed to me that he was not able to detach from his own situation to have a more unbiased perspective, while he could easily do it about others.
– Let’s play a little game, I’ve suggested. You’ll gonna give voice to two different inner selves: the Job Seeker and the Boss. What the Boss would like to say to the Job Seeker? Take on the Boss role and address your words directly to the Job Seeker.
– You’re a smart guy and you’re determined to get a better position, the Boss started. I see you putting some energy in your job search. Maybe you need to step back a little, to see what’s working and what not, before continuing your job search.
– I can’t, I have no energy left. I don’t know what’s wrong with me – the Job Seeker answered.
– There’s nothing wrong with you. Look at all the progress you’ve done up to now: the information you’ve gathered, networking with people in your field, information interviews. You’re very committed to your job search, you even pay a coach to help you. What do you need to acknowledge all that?
At this point, I’ve asked my client to notice how the Boss feels.
– He’s in charge, feels confident, he likes to be asked for help, and being able to help. He doesn’t have all the answers, but he’s confident that they can find the answers together or at least pointing out important things to ponder.
Inviting him to take on the “Job Seeker” role, I asked how that feels like.
– Still frustrated for not getting the expected results, but beginning to realize that in fact that frustration got me into this low energy state. So how can I project a good image in interviews with such a low energy?! I can see how being attached to results (getting the new position), and eager to get it as soon as possible … had in fact the opposite effect! Being blinded by my eagerness to get the better position trapped me in a race, not leaving me time to acknowledge and appreciate what was good from this experience.
– Great awareness, I said. And how do you feel right now?
– Much better, I can see now more clearly how I was shooting myself in the foot. ๐Ÿ™‚ And why I didn’t get the results I’ve expected. I feel more confident and energized.
– So what do you need from now on to bring this positive feeling back anytime when you’ll feel again frustrated regarding your job search?
– I’ll remind myself of the good things I’ve accomplished until then, and I’ll take a step back to see what’s working, what not, what I can do different.
– And what will remind you to do all that?ย car
– I don’t know.
– Do you have any hobbies?
– Anyone in particular?
– Mustang.
– Do you also love driving?
– Yes.
– Now I’m curious. What do you enjoy more: driving your Mustang or getting to the destination?
– Driving my Mustang, of course. Oh, I can see where you’re going: I was too attached to getting the result (getting the new position), and didn’t pay too much attention to enjoy the journey!
– Yep, you got it! ๐Ÿ™‚ So your job search is your Mustang, enjoy your riding! ๐Ÿ™‚
It’s not the destination, but how you feel and who you become in the process.
– Thank you so much! It really feels better now… and I got excited about my ride! ๐Ÿ™‚

If I would have more time, I would’ve ask him what characteristics of this car he admires most, and how he can bring more of those into his job search. ๐Ÿ™‚



About Gabriela Casineanu

Building a better world by tapping into introvert power. I'm a Thoughts Designer, Trailblazer and Artist, with a background in Engineering, IT, Quality Assurance, Business and Coaching. Yep, seems a lot ... but I came a full circle. :-) I enjoyed every phase I've been through, especially my last years when the pieces of my puzzle start coming together!
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